Question

I’m 25 years old, and recently I came across a couple’s love diary online. I’ve even seen some people talking about it on the internet. Can an expert tell me if what they’re seeing online is accurate? Do you write a couple’s love diary? Anyone knows?

Answer

The bond between a husband and wife is the most precious, yet after years of marriage, I’ve discovered a terrifying reality – the passion between my husband and me is gradually waning, almost as if I’m touching my left hand with my right: he no longer becomes speechless with excitement, the once overwhelming pleasure is gone; he not only forgets Valentine’s Day but also often returns home drunk, with his phone often turned off… And as for me, I’m not much better; I often throw pillows in a fit of temper, spend all day shopping for clothes and cosmetics, and even skip brushing my teeth before climbing into bed… So, we’ve gone from sleeping in the same bed to sleeping on different sides of the bed, and eventually ended up sleeping in separate rooms. It seems that my marriage has truly entered a stagnant “midnight” period. At night when it’s quiet, I carefully reflect on our journey as a couple, and suddenly realize: my husband has been single-handedly managing our love and marriage. Look at it this way: it was him who first kissed me stealthily, who knelt down to propose with one knee, who initiated the foreplay in our sexual encounters, who repeatedly asked me: Are you happy? Are you comfortable?… Everything has always been initiated by him, settled by him, and acted upon by him. Especially in matters of sex, I am always silent like a lamb, waiting to be pampered with his tender affection or conquered by his passionate embrace… Could it be that because I am too much of a ‘good girl,’ he has lost his fighting spirit? In order to revitalize our marriage that has become as still as death water, I have decided to change myself. Like mending a broken bowl after the milk has been spilled…