Question
From a young age, there has been a thought of seeking attention, care, and sympathy through self-harm behaviors. This feeling of happiness from others’ sympathy is confusing, not knowing why one would have such feelings.
Answer
The situation you described is often rooted in psychological issues, possibly due to severe lack of love caused by insufficient family care. Firstly, it is recommended to learn independence, have your own friends and confidants, and reduce over-reliance on others’ attention. Communicate more with your parents and elders to enhance intimacy and avoid obtaining love by hurting yourself. At the same time, it is suggested to engage in aerobic exercise and seek consultation and psychological counseling from professional psychological institutions to receive more professional help.